Have you ever had that moment at work?
You know, when you wait.
And wait to look at the clock. Then, proud of your enduring ability to be patient, you finally allow yourself a peek at the ticking numbers.
But your heart sinks.
Only 30 minutes have gone by, if you’re lucky.
This is a stay-at-home mom’s day.
Her secret soul wrenching enemy and it must be crushed.
Too Much Time
“How slow and still the time did drag along?” -Mark Twain
In the morning, you wake up at the same time.
The kids eat breakfast, lunch, and dinner at the same time.
Your loving husband comes home at the same time.
Routine can make a mother want to pull her hair out, but it’s not really the enemy.
The enemy is TIME.
It moves at the pace of a three-year-old getting ready to go outside.
I know I shouldn’t, but I can’t help but wait for my husband to get home so there can be some sort of change in the house.
And then end up giving him word vomit once he arrives.
I love playing with my kids, but I can only play so much. I am an adult and their thrills don’t always thrill me as much I would like them to. I must do other things throughout the long day.
There is too much time.
So, I find myself passing time with recipes and chores that are never fully-done.
Tick. Tock.[bctt tweet=”Routine can make a mother want to pull her hair out, but it’s not the enemy. The enemy is TIME.” username=”WriteAwayMommy”]
Not Enough Time
“The bad news is time flies. The good news is you’re the pilot.” -Michael Altshuler
Even though the motherhood clock moves by slowly, somehow there isn’t enough of it.
• There’s not enough time to get work done.
You’re proud of yourself that you put the laundry in. One task done. Then you kid calls from the bathroom to help him wipe his butt. Or it’s time to make lunch/dirty the kitchen again.
Once the kitchen is clean again there are many more tasks to do to until you go to bed and realize you still didn’t put the laundry in the dryer.
Soon, you have a mountain on laundry.
And yet we must find time to write.
• There’s not enough time for sleep.
Sleep. It calls your name as you walk through the day, feeling very much like one of the zombies you read about in your book, or show from Netflix. Laying in your bed is on your mind as you rock your newborn to sleep and play with your toddler.
But it rarely does. When I nap, I thank God for the chance to sleep. It is a rare, golden jewel for a mother.
We end up being like exhausted Energizer Bunnies, week just keep going and going.
• And yet there is not enough time spent our kids.
You miss them once they’re asleep. You kiss their dimpled fingers and smell their scent that was made for your nose. You hold their tiny bodies just a little longer because you know time is not on your side.
Tomorrow they will be a different, awesome person. Tears will form in your eyes years from now when you look at their miniature clothes from today.
Tomorrow arrives too soon.[bctt tweet=”Tomorrow arrives too soon” username=”WriteAwayMommy”]
5 Powerful Ways
“Time is not measured by clocks, but by moments.”
Motherhood is full of back and forth, ups and downs. Sometimes you want to cry with pure joy.
And other times you just want to cry.
Time creeps up and makes the day long and boring, or else too short.
But there are some powerful ways not only to make it through the day, but have fun doing it.
1. JAM LIKE JELLY
Turn up the volume. Blast the music and have a dance party with your kid. Listen to a song that makes your spirit come alive as you change that diaper or chop an onion. Every time my kids and I turn on some tunes, our day immediately turns brighter.
And the best part? The time moves by in a decent manner, not too slow or fast.
I have a passion for writing and fiction writing. I turn up the volume on the speaker or one headphone (so I can listen for kids) and listen to the experts like Sarah Werner, Tim Grahl and Shawn Coyne discuss the art of writing while I do chores.
I become a better writer while folding laundry.
3. GET OUT
The house can be a soul-crushing, time slowing place. Sometimes you need to get you and your kids out, at least once a day.
I live in a small tourist town in a state that is frozen eight months of the year. There’s not much to do.
So, we make it up.
My kids and I walk around and pretend the road is full of booby-traps and lava. We throw snowballs at each other’s coats (not in the face, thank you).
We act like kids.
And the time flies.
4. HAVE HELP
No, I don’t mean from an adult. Have help from you kids.
Really, they want to be just like you. What better way to boost their spirit, teach them about life, and spend quality time with your kiddo then by letting them help you.
Granted, there will be mistakes.
But life is all about perspective.
If they get a little flour on their nose, add some to their chubby cheek. They might laugh. So will you.
What better use of time is there than laughter?
5. HANG OUT
Motherhood is lonely, yet you’re never alone.
The first time we had guests over after I had my son. Since babies don’t always live on the schedule we want he wanted to eat once the table was set. I went into our bedroom to snuggle, kiss and feed my baby.
I could hear family and friends laughing and eating. It was the first time I felt a little lonely as a mother.
And it happens often.
Because of this it is important for a mother to remember herself. We get caught in taking care of these wonderful little munchkins and it really is the best job in the world.
But you need to hang out with a friend sometimes.
Have Daddy watch the kids and have a mommy playdate with that friend you’re missing. Go have a burger, coffee, or glass of wine. Chit chat. Have a conversation that doesn’t involve Blaze and the Monster Machines.
Go ahead, talk about your kids (because of course you will).
The time will go by too fast and you’ll miss your kids.
Yet, it’s worth it.[bctt tweet=”Motherhood can be a lonely job, but it’s worth it” username=”WriteAwayMommy”]
Parenting at home is hard. Time becomes our slow-moving enemy. It tortures us with a slow creeping smile.
But you can do it.
Every time you feel the slow decay of time rise, every time the clock doesn’t want to move ahead, remember to jam out, learn something, get some help from your kiddos, get outside, or hang out with a friend.
Let your spirit be filled with joy as you watch your kids enjoy the moments these simple acts bring.
Do it for them.
Do it for yourself.
“Time is too slow for those who wait, too swift for those who fear, too long for those who grieve, too short for those who rejoice, but for those who love, time is eternity.” -Henry Van Dyke