At first you do it in secret.
Hands ready, computer screen glowing. You begin.
The words pour out in a gush. You’ve never felt better than when you’re writing.
Yet no one knows.
They say you aren’t a professional writer until you call yourself one. So, I’ve started telling people.
And I’ve noticed a few things that happen once you finally admit your secret.
That you are a writer.
1. You are SO Not Alone
I admit it, heart racing.
“I have two kids” I say,” And… I write”.
There is a moment when you believe the person will be amazed by your confession. You must be the one of the few, right?
And then your bubble pops.
They are a writer, too.
They are planning a book, or want to one day, or dream of writing. And for a second, you are sad.
This was your moment.
Until you realize how awesome this is. You have someone who understands you. You can talk books, writing and editing.
And it feels good not to be alone.
2. Are You Published?
If they aren’t writers, someone normally ask this.
They look at you, eyebrows raised and ask. “Have you been published?” Or say, “Have I read anything of yours?”
And for me, my heart drops. Because, of course I haven’t.
I am new at this. It is my passion.[bctt tweet=”It’s ok I haven’t published anything yet. I am new at this. It is my passion.” username=”WriteAwayMommy”]
But, my books have yet to reach shelves. In fact, they still sit in my mind.
It can be disheartening to see the disappointment.
But, I always answer with a positive and mention something I am proud of.
• Short stories published online
• Doing first reads for Grimdark Magazine
• And the books ideas I have.
They will be pleased and so should you.
3. They Don’t Care
If you call yourself a writer it means you are ready to be a professional writer.
It is a big step. Something to be proud of.
Many people will never admit they write. They keep it like a secret shame locked in a dark bedroom.
So, when you admit it to someone, you kind of expect fireworks. Or at least a clap on the back.
But some people are different. Some people just don’t care.
You get a blank stare and then it’s off to the next topic.
Apparently, the world does not revolve around the very awesome writing we do. It’s like growing up all over again.
But it’s a good lesson. Just like the conversation topic, we need to move on.
Besides, we’re used to rejection as writers anyway, right?
4. They Care Too Much
Yes, it’s disappointing when someone doesn’t care, but its ok.
Because sometimes you get the opposite. They care too much.
They want to know what you’ve written, if they can read it, and where to find more.
They want to know if you are famous, or will be. Maybe they want your signature- (not me!)
But these are the moments we dream of. The readers who care. Writers want to be inspired and inspire others with their words.
Yet, we can by shy so these moments can be difficult.
But this is the time when you should feel proud, enjoy the fruit your hard work. Step out of your shell this time. Writing is a hard, and sometimes lonely job.
Take your joy when you can.
5. It Feels Good
No matter which end of the spectrum you get for a response there is one thing I have found to always be true.
At least for me.
It feels good.
For a long time, I kept my writing a secret. I was afraid someone would see how terrible my writing is and call me out on it.
Well, I am still sure that will happen.
But I love admitting my passion. To doing something that I love. And no matter how much talent I have, or don’t have, there is something to be said for pursuing your passion.
So, go ahead. Call yourself a writer.
Sure, you may have people who care, don’t care, also write, hope you’re a new J.K. Rowling, but in the end, none of these things matter.
You call yourself a writer for YOU.
You are now the professional.
You are a writer.
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